Today was just crazy at the tribunal. It seems like all the requests for dispensations for summer weddings in the diocese came in at once, so I did very little but collect, read, process and prepare dispensations all day. As far as canon law is concerned, I'm burned out.
Most of my friends who are canonists are in the same boat. It is always our busiest time before Easter (when you work long hours to get cases resolved before Easter and Pentecost, when converts come into the Church) and before summer (when you have to get everything ready for summer weddings) Easter came pretty late this year. Add to this the big pedophile scandal, and most canonists feel stretched to the limit.
I'm looking forward to summer when things slow down. It will be nice to see my family again.
Sunday, May 17, 2009
Wednesday, April 21, 2004
Wedding Planning 101: Create a Wedding Planner
Here's My Fantasy Wedding: Make Wedding Planning Quite easy (I hope)
The ceremony will take place in a distant location, as part of a vacation, maybe? The most important things are that my family NOT be there, and that I can play off the ceremony as one of those "spur of the moment" kind of things.
To make up for the fact that they missed the wedding, I will hold a reception/dinner/dancing shindig for my family. Everyone will be very nice to the groom, because it's way too late to stop us from getting married.
To make up for the fact that my friends missed the wedding, I will have a totally kick-ass party. Maybe something outside. A barbecue? There will be plenty of booze and loud, loud music.
Howz that for wedding planning :)
The ceremony will take place in a distant location, as part of a vacation, maybe? The most important things are that my family NOT be there, and that I can play off the ceremony as one of those "spur of the moment" kind of things.
To make up for the fact that they missed the wedding, I will hold a reception/dinner/dancing shindig for my family. Everyone will be very nice to the groom, because it's way too late to stop us from getting married.
To make up for the fact that my friends missed the wedding, I will have a totally kick-ass party. Maybe something outside. A barbecue? There will be plenty of booze and loud, loud music.
Howz that for wedding planning :)
Saturday, February 21, 2004
A Tale of Two Weddings
Italian Church Host of Pornographic movie
I really don't know what to say about this. The priest there simply claimed "We thought they were shooting a wedding scene." Forgive my cynicism, but the priest is either very naieve, or flat out lying. Where were Church Authorities to monitor what was going on? Anytime I've ever held a function at any Church, be it Novus Ordo or Traditional, there were always some Church reps there to make sure everything went ok.
While the Novus Ordo priest "reconsecrates" the place, perhaps he should offer some prayers to God for all the other defilings that have gone on in the sanctuary over the years.
I really don't know what to say about this. The priest there simply claimed "We thought they were shooting a wedding scene." Forgive my cynicism, but the priest is either very naieve, or flat out lying. Where were Church Authorities to monitor what was going on? Anytime I've ever held a function at any Church, be it Novus Ordo or Traditional, there were always some Church reps there to make sure everything went ok.
While the Novus Ordo priest "reconsecrates" the place, perhaps he should offer some prayers to God for all the other defilings that have gone on in the sanctuary over the years.
Tuesday, February 10, 2004
7 Stupid Wedding Mistakes Even Smart Couples Make
What do you think of the title? I don't have a list of 7 wedding mistakes, just thought it was cool :)
More Wedding Bell Blues
This morning my mom called in a tizzy. She says my brother has been coming down very hard on her with this wedding stuff. He was upset that she hadn't yet rented tuxes for our younger brothers (Um... the wedding's a month away... and why is that my mom's responsibility?). Apparently, according to wedding etiquette, the groom's parents are in charge of planning the "rehearsal dinner." I didn't even know there was such a thing as a rehearsal dinner (Mark my words: If I ever get married, there will be none of this hoopla)!
Burn, Baby, Burn! Not only is my mom supposed to plan and fund this event, now the bride is insisting that my mom send out invitations for it as well. My mom recently lost her job, and is furiously looking for work. She doesn't have time (or money) for all of this stuff. Not to mention all of the wedding showers the bride is asking her to attend (which of course, always take place at the bride's home... a four hour drive from my parents' house). My mom couldn't attend the last one, and the bride made a big fuss.
I just want to call my brother up and tell him, "Look, I know this is your special day and all. You want everything to be perfect. And we're all happy for you. But you're being a real asshole. This is YOUR wedding. Not mom's. Not mine. If you are that worried about stuff not getting done, then you should really do it yourself." I'm sure I'll end up calling him and saying something like, "Go easy on mom, ok?" or something equally wussy instead, though. It was so much easier to fight with him when we were kids.
So there you go at least one mistake above to avoide, don't expect others to do all the work for your wedding.
More Wedding Bell Blues
This morning my mom called in a tizzy. She says my brother has been coming down very hard on her with this wedding stuff. He was upset that she hadn't yet rented tuxes for our younger brothers (Um... the wedding's a month away... and why is that my mom's responsibility?). Apparently, according to wedding etiquette, the groom's parents are in charge of planning the "rehearsal dinner." I didn't even know there was such a thing as a rehearsal dinner (Mark my words: If I ever get married, there will be none of this hoopla)!
Burn, Baby, Burn! Not only is my mom supposed to plan and fund this event, now the bride is insisting that my mom send out invitations for it as well. My mom recently lost her job, and is furiously looking for work. She doesn't have time (or money) for all of this stuff. Not to mention all of the wedding showers the bride is asking her to attend (which of course, always take place at the bride's home... a four hour drive from my parents' house). My mom couldn't attend the last one, and the bride made a big fuss.
I just want to call my brother up and tell him, "Look, I know this is your special day and all. You want everything to be perfect. And we're all happy for you. But you're being a real asshole. This is YOUR wedding. Not mom's. Not mine. If you are that worried about stuff not getting done, then you should really do it yourself." I'm sure I'll end up calling him and saying something like, "Go easy on mom, ok?" or something equally wussy instead, though. It was so much easier to fight with him when we were kids.
So there you go at least one mistake above to avoide, don't expect others to do all the work for your wedding.
Friday, April 04, 2003
Opposition to Gay Marriage
Andrew Sullivan raises a good point when he contrasts the opposition to gay marriage with Fox's new reality show "Married by America." After all, the marriage of two people who have never met - by a third party who orders them to do so - makes a mockery of the institution of marriage.
So when is Sullivan going to challenge the mass-weddings performed by the Rev. Sun-Young Moon and the Unification Church - who employ Sullivan with a warmed over column at the Washington Times?
I'm sure such criticism will be immediately forthcoming. After all, Sullivan wears his criticism of - and dismissal from - the New York Times as a red badge of courage.
Andrew Sullivan has no problem with biting the hand that feeds him - so long as it is a LEFT hand.
So when is Sullivan going to challenge the mass-weddings performed by the Rev. Sun-Young Moon and the Unification Church - who employ Sullivan with a warmed over column at the Washington Times?
I'm sure such criticism will be immediately forthcoming. After all, Sullivan wears his criticism of - and dismissal from - the New York Times as a red badge of courage.
Andrew Sullivan has no problem with biting the hand that feeds him - so long as it is a LEFT hand.